Feelings

Feelings
I have three friends that cause me some really bad feelings. I met them when I was a lot younger – in fact, my parents introduced me to them. Their names are Coulda, Woulda, and Should.

Coulda and Woulda both cause me feelings of sadness, disappointment and regret. They make me feel like a victim, like I don’t have the power to make good decisions and create a life full of joy and happiness. Here’s an example: “I coulda made a lot of money by now if I’d bought a property in Edmonton 3 years ago when my friend Pablo did!” Or, “I woulda loved to go to that spa retreat if I had enough money.”

So these two are friends I don’t like to hang around with very much. They make me tired.

But of the three, my friend Should is the worst. He fills me with feelings of not being good enough. When I feel like just staying home and reading a book, he tells me I should be DOING something productive. Or when I treat myself to something FUN, he tells me that I should be more careful with my money, or that I should be buying something for someone else!

There are times, honestly, when I wish my parents had never introduced me to these friends. I’m not sure that I need friends like that in my life.
But they show up, uninvited, and it can be a bit of a challenge getting rid of them.

Their presence has been the reason I’ve often chosen NOT to follow my intuition. As you know, intuition is really just listening to your ‘gut’, following your feelings. Many of us struggle with getting in touch with our intuition, never mind following it. But in order to have the joy, fulfillment and peace we all seek, it’s important to go where your spirit is leading you. And you won’t find your spirit in your head!

Shakti Gawain says in her book, Living in the Light, “The spirit always tends toward expansiveness, greater energy, and aliveness.” The mind, on the other hand, considers safety, the status quo, which ultimately leads to a feeling of fatigue at best, or deadness at worst.

So, tuning in to my intuition is extremely important; I can’t let friends like Coulda, Woulda, and Should get in the way of my intention to create a life that is exciting, fun, and fulfilling.

So how do I get them to leave? Thought you’d never ask …

… First of all, know that you CAN learn to ignore these friends; it is a skill that you can be taught, or you can teach yourself. And once you make the commitment to learn that skill, believe me, all Heaven and Earth will conspire to assist you.

Start by observing what happens when you dismiss them; do you get the results you were hoping for? Is life a little easier? Be conscious of doing this and bring your awareness to what changes occur in your life.

Second, be kind to yourself; there will be times when your head will take over and before you know it, you’ll have said “Yes,” when you wanted to say “No”, or you’ll have taken action when what you really needed was rest. Don’t let Mr. Should, get his teeth into you and tell you that you should have listened to your heart. (These guys are tricky – they’ll even use right thinking as a tool against you.) You already feel badly enough; so don’t make it worse.

Third, make an effort every day to tune into your heart – just stop whatever you are doing right now, and ask if it feels right. The more often you do this, the more you’ll connect with what your spirit is leading you to do. And the better you’ll feel.

Finally, if you are really struggling, you can ask for help. Our coaches are trained facilitators in listening to your heart, and may be able to assist you. Ask for a free sample session.

I promise you that when you do learn to follow your intuition, you’ll see much more of what you want your life to have, you’ll be much more of who you want to be, and things will be a lot easier than you can imagine. And Coulda, Woulda, and Should won’t come around so often. What could be better than that?

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